Sexual addictions are very common in today’s world. This is obvious through the accessibility of pornography, TV ads, shows, movies, scandals, and the amount of books written to help battle the issue. Surfing for God by Michael Cusick is another book written about the problem of sexual addiction and how to overcome it.

Cusick goes about it in a different way. He doesn’t give a 12 step program on how to overcome the addiction. He doesn’t tell the person to work harder. The way Cusick goes about helping is very personal. He tells much of his own story. Cusick was a long time addict and he openly shares some of the lowest points he faced before he was able to overcome the hold this sin had in his life.

Some of this book discusses brain chemistry and why just “working harder” doesn’t work to overcome sexual addiction. He writes about how the brain is changed through addiction, and how powerful the chemicals in our brains can be. His conclusion is that through prayer, allowing God to circumcise your heart, focusing on who you are to become, and correct accountability, people can overcome this sin.

I really enjoyed most of this book. It can be an amazing tool to those who are currently struggling with this issue as well as to help others understand how to help people who are struggling. The way Cusick tells his stories is very helpful. It is easy to feel what he felt and to see where he was coming from, even if you have never gone as far as he had.

I was very concerned about his promoting of Centering Prayer or Contemplative Prayer. As I read his description of this kind of prayer I became very uneasy. This “praying” is very similar to the Eastern Mysticism practice of meditation. It is true that as Christians we are told to meditate on God’s word but that means to dwell on it. We focus on it as we go about our life, we let it change us. This kind of prayer is going into a quiet room and focusing on a word or phrase until you feel something. I am not comfortable with promoting this, and I believe it is very wrong.

Every other part of this book I enjoyed and believe it can be very helpful. I would encourage others to read this book, but to do so with discernment.

I don’t know anyone who likes to feel the eyes of judgment staring down at them. There is nobody I know who just enjoys putting themselves in a position where people judge their life, their actions, or even their motives.

In fact, I often hear people saying things like, “don’t judge me!” or “this is my business, don’t you worry about it.”

There is an account in the Bible about a woman who didn’t let that bother her though. Check it out in Luke 7:36-40, 44-48.

36 One of the Pharisees asked him to eat with him, and he went into the Pharisee’s house and reclined at the table. 37 And behold, a woman of the city, who was a sinner, when she learned that he was reclining at table in the Pharisee’s house, brought an alabaster flask of ointment, 38 and standing behind him at his feet, weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears and wiped them with the hair of her head and kissed his feet and anointed them with the ointment. 39 Now when the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would have known who and what sort of woman this is who is touching him, for she is a sinner.” 40 And Jesus answering said to him, “Simon, I have something to say to you.” And he answered, “Say it, Teacher.”… 44 Then turning toward the woman he said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave me no water for my feet, but she has wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. 45 You gave me no kiss, but from the time I came in she has not ceased to kiss my feet. 46 You did not anoint my head with oil, but she has anointed my feet with ointment. 47 Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven—for she loved much. But he who is forgiven little, loves little.” 48 And he said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.”

This woman was completely aware of her lifestyle decision. She knew by walking into this gathering she would meet judgmental eyes. She knew people would talk, spread rumors, whisper, lie, or do anything else to make her look bad.

She didn’t care.

All she care about was washing Jesus’ feet. All she wanted to do was to serve and worship the man she knew could make a difference in her life.

This is the kind of abandonment of ourselves to which Christ calls us. If we stopped worrying about what other people thought and stopped letting them rule our actions.

Sometimes people will spread lies about us. Other times they will take what we have done and make it seem bad in some way. We live in a world that values darkness. When we begin to live in the light, the world does not like it and the dark will do what it can to squelch the light.

We cannot let the perceptions of others stop us from living the life God has called us to live. Just like the woman who washed Jesus’ feet, we must worship Him, no matter who is around. Jesus forgave the woman for her sins and spoke highly of her to those around.

When we live according to what God tells us, we will be blessed, and that is worth all of the trash people may say about us in the mean time.

It is hard to believe that we are already in October. The month of September had many things happen both in and out of the blogging world for me. We will stick with what has happened in the blog today.

I wrote 16 posts during September.

That is as many posts as I had written from April all the way through August!

It is also the most amount of posts I have written in a month since starting this blog. I was very excited when I realized it.

I have been much more consistent about writing my posts than I have been in recent months and my plan is to continue that this month. I know it didn’t always work out this way, but I still plan to put up a new post Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday, and on Wednesday put up a link to my post on Hammer on Anvil.

My traffic to the site was actually down from last month, but this is the first month of writing consistently so I wasn’t expecting any different. Here are my top 10 posts from September.

Washing Feet, Scrubbing Toilets, and Other Jobs We Should Seek

Living For Christ Seems Ridiculous

God Stays the Same

Devotion to Christ is Simple? 

Review of Love Does by Bob Goff

How Love Letters Helped Me Reflect

In Good Company

Is Not Sharing an Expression of Hate?

Sacrificing Because Christ Sacrificed: My Post on Hammer on Anvil

Don’t Give Up on Others

I wrote all of these posts, except the book review, this month. I had several people start following the blog or liking my posts this month. My top liked posts were “Don’t Give Up on Others” and “Share it.”

Thank you all for continuing to visit the site and read the posts I put up. If you ever have feedback, just leave a comment and I’ll get back with you!

What was your number one post for September on your blog?